Putting the child to sleep - 6 mistakes that parents make

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To most adults, it is amazing why children refuse to sleep and why sometimes getting them to sleep is a real challenge. And we wish we had at least half of their sleeping time, but alas. The truth is that very often the reluctance of the little ones to go to bed is a consequence of some mistakes that mom and dad make, sometimes - without realizing it. Here's what not to do if you want to reduce resistance when it's time to go to bed:


  1. We use sleep and lying in bed as punishment

One of the most significant mistakes has to do with using sleep and bedtime as a threat. For example - "If you don't eat your dinner, you'll go to bed instead of playing", "Who doesn't listen - straight to bed", etc. Sleep and bedtime should be perceived by the child as something useful and pleasant. If you use "Good night" as a symbol of "You're punished," then your son or daughter will start to look at bedtime as locking them in a dark room to serve out their sentence.


  1. We give food after the child has gone to bed

Children are extremely inventive, so after you tell them it's time to sleep, they suddenly pee, get hungry, drink water, decide something hurts, want a story, etc. etc. Of course, you can't deny your child water or going to the toilet, but it's definitely important to introduce rules about feeding. On the one hand, eating after your child has gone to bed and brushed their teeth is harmful and often makes you a potential visitor to the dentist's office. On the other hand, sweet foods such as chocolates and candies affect a child's calmness and sleep.


  1. We don't follow through and we're not consistent

Consistency and adherence to what we have stated is key, not just when it comes to sleep time. If the parent doesn't allow something, and after the child gets upset, allows it, the problems get worse. If you said - "We read this story, then you close your eyes", and after the "last" story there are several more "last ones", be sure that the scenario will be repeated every night and the child will grumble and beg until he gets his way. because it has already seen that "the number passes".


  1. We turn on the TV

"My child can't fall asleep without a TV", "He doesn't close his eyes without Masha and the Bear" - many parents will explain similar things to you. However, most of us are hardly aware of the effect on the child when he overdoes the television, especially before going to bed. Try to fill the time before sleep with soothing activities that exclude technology - for example, stories, conversations, games that exclude strong physical and emotional activity.


  1. We use threats

Using threats if a child refuses to go to bed is just as harmful as using bedtime as punishment. For example: "If you don't go to bed, we won't go to the zoo tomorrow" or "Whoever doesn't go to bed, won't get candy tomorrow." It may seem like an easy and efficient solution to you, but for the child, you only reinforce the feeling that "sleep time is something unpleasant", which, however, he has to endure in order for the fun and pleasant things to happen to him.


  1. We bet on bribes

The other extreme is using something the child likes as a means of "trading" sleep time. Better to concentrate efforts on how to make going to bed and getting ready for sleep into something pleasant, even fun. Bet on different games – for example: "Let's compete to be the first to brush his teeth and get to bed." Instead of "It's time for bed," say "It's time for a bedtime story." In two words – concentrate on how to arouse the child's interest instead of threatening or bribing.

RODITEL magazine, Roditel.bg

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