How to answer the question "Mom, where do babies come from?"

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"Where do babies come from?" This question is sure to be asked as the child approaches the age of 3.
It's easier and better to tell him the truth from the start than to give him an implausible explanation that you'll have to change later. Try to answer the question as simply as it is asked. For example, you can say, “The baby grows in a special place inside the mother.” You don't need to tell him anything else if that's enough for him for now. But after a while it will want to know how the baby gets in there and how it gets out. The first question will surely put the mother (or father) in an uncomfortable position. She may think that the child wants to know something about conception and sex. Of course, the child doesn't mean that. He thinks that things go into the stomach when he eats and wonders if the baby goes in the same way. A simple answer is that the baby grows from a small seed that has always been in the mother. It will be many months before he asks what the father's role is.

Some psychologists believe that the child should be told from the beginning that the role of the father is to put his seed in the mother. Maybe that's right, especially when it comes to a little boy who feels that men don't play a role. But most experts are of the opinion that it is not necessary to give a 3-4-year-old child an accurate idea of ​​the physical and emotional side of sexual relations. When he asked the question, the child did not want to know this. It is only necessary to satisfy his curiosity, and that at his mental level.

And why not the stork?
You may ask: "Isn't it easier and more convenient to tell him about the stork?". There are several reasons why you shouldn't. It is known that if the mother or aunt of a 3-year-old child is pregnant, she can suspect where the baby is growing by looking at the woman's figure and by overhearing conversations on the subject. The child is sure to be puzzled and alarmed if the mother nervously tells him something different from what he believes to be true. Even if he does not suspect anything at 3 years old, he will discover all or part of the truth at 5, 7 or 9 years old. It is better to tell him the truth from the beginning, otherwise he will later decide that you lied to him. And if he finds out that for some reason you didn't dare to tell him the truth, it will put a barrier between you and make him feel awkward. Then in the future, he is unlikely to ask you any other questions, no matter how anxious he is. Another reason why the 3-year-old should be told the truth is that then he is satisfied with simple answers. It will be easier for you to answer his more difficult questions later.

Excerpt from the book "Caring for the Baby and the Child",
Dr. Benjamin Spock and Dr. Robert Needleman

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