Baby puberty? Sounds strange to you, doesn't it? Believe it or not, most children go through this period. Baby puberty is not so much associated with physical changes as with actual puberty, but with emotional and behavioral characteristics.
What is Baby Puberty?
We've all seen it scurrying children, children who persist, constantly repeat "no", "I don't want" and "no" or just do what they want. Well, these are some of the main signs that a child is in the difficult period called "baby puberty". It occurs around the age of two (sooner or later), when the child begins to feel the need to express his individuality. At this age, the little ones decide that they need to show mom and dad that they are not just diapers, completely dependent on others, but separate individuals who need to express themselves.
What are the symptoms?
Most often, children at this stage of development they are hard to obey, they don't tend to do what their parents tell them and in most cases they do the exact opposite. The child is impatient, difficult to give in and wants things to happen instantly.
Another main sign of baby puberty is the desire of the little ones to command and set the rules. The child decides that he can dress himself, although in reality he is unable to do so. He gets angry if you try to help him, and if you leave him, he's angry again, this time because you didn't help him.
In two words - we are talking about a rather difficult period in which a small person tries to be big without having the knowledge and physical skills to do so.
How do we cope?
Most of all, patience is needed. And of course – the right approach. Do not show excessive severity, nor excessive weakness. In both cases, you will only harm yourself and your child. The punishments, the yelling, the threats and slaps will only stimulate stubborn manifestations, and you will soon notice that nervous outbursts have become more frequent. If you are trying to "tame" the little person with gifts and fulfilling every whim, this also would not lead to anything positive. Even a two-year-old child, who cannot yet speak, will quickly understand that by thorny on the ground and starts kicking with his feet, he will receive a treat, which after a while becomes an incentive.
Give choice and educate through games
In many cases, the child's behavior is trying to get your attention, so the best approach to tantrums and tantrums is to simply ignore them. Games are a great way to reduce the frequency of such occurrences. A two-year-old will be able to understand the message, which has heard in the form of a game much easier than if you try to explain to him through a serious conversation why yelling and tantrums are something unacceptable. To do this, take his favorite toys and act out a scene that comes close to your experiences. Make the activity fun and educational at the same time.
The ability to choose it is also key for the child to feel that he is significant (which is his main goal). Use every opportunity to choose between equivalent things that are not essential to you - "Which juice do you want, apple or orange?", "Which blouse do you prefer to wear - the blue one or the green one?" etc. Here it is important to respect the boundary when giving the child the opportunity to choose. If we ask him - "Do you want to go to bed or not", "Are you going to have dinner or not", this already leads to a change in our authority and it will be difficult for us to achieve the desired compliance with rules.
There is no cause for alarm
Do not think that children who are stubborn and stubborn at this age, are different from the others. Try to maintain your authority without harshly condemning this behavior. Children who are deprived of the right to choose during this crucial period for their development can grow up to be independent and insecure individuals. Therefore, go through the difficult period called "baby puberty" with a lot of attention and love and most importantly - be calm!
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