Have you ever thought about how much of a change it is for a child to go from kindergarten to school? For a child who until yesterday played carefree, today has to face a bunch of duties and responsibilities and part with some basic habits.
The biggest obstacles that children face on the first day of school are the demands on them, the new environment and children. Evelina Lafchiyska, a psychologist from the "Parents" Association, stated this in an interview for BGNES.
According to the psychologist, the child goes through several stages from childhood to the first studyone day. The attention of the parents until he goes to kindergarten or school is directed only to him. When he enters, however, he becomes one of many and needs the support of parents and teachers so that he can work well with the other children.
The initial process of adaptation for the child is related to the change of regime. He begins to have many more responsibilities and demands to meet, such as getting up early, packing his backpack, homework, learning the weekly schedule, the clock, mastering reading, writing and arithmetic. It takes a different time for each child to adjust to the school environment for the first time. Whether the child is in 1st, 2nd or 3rd grade there is an adaptation process of several weeks, but especially in 1st and 5th grade it is a bit longer because the requirements are very different of these so far.
Whether the child starts school at age 6 or 7 does not make that much of a difference, but it all depends on whether he manages to get along with the other kids in the class. If he got along with his classmates in kindergarten, it is advisable to enroll in school together with them. This will help him to adapt better, and if he is enrolled in a completely new class with unfamiliar children, it is advisable to wait until he is at least 7 years old, so that he can be a little more mature and get used to the the other children.
Some kids step over the school threshold with tears in their eyes, because of the worry and ignorance of what awaits them. Evelina Lafchiyska is adamant that in children's imaginations, the garden is a much cozier place, with smaller rooms and more colorful places. On the other hand, the size of the school buildings sometimes scares the little ones. On the first day of school, there are many children, parents, teachers, all gathered in the yard, with great solemnity, but also great stress for the first grader.
The main advice of the psychologist aimed at parents of first-borns, are to prepare their children for what awaits them at school by telling them positive things. When the child imagines that something good is coming, his anxiety is less. Then the process becomes much easier because it already has formed expectations. It is important for the parent to take the time to look at the child's classroom, meet the class teacher, see where the toilet and high chair will be. The child needs to know if he has forgotten his pocket money, for example, and cannot buy food, who he can turn to if the teacher is not there at the moment. It is good that the conversation about school between the child and the parent begins at the end of the kindergarten or preparatory group.
If, after the start of school, the child persistently refuses to attend classes, it certainly has some specific reason. It doesn't want to stop going there just like that. Then the parent should talk to him, and if he can't figure out the reason on his own, it's a good idea to contact the school psychologist or the class teacher.
Parents of younger children often wonder, when others in the class already have profiles on social networks and are not 13 years old, have smartphones and tablets, what should they do with their child.
"When all children have profiles in social networks, tablets or smartphones, the feeling of isolation if our child does not have them will be great. If the parent does not want his child to have these things, it is appropriate to explain to him in a conversation why they are not good for him. But, if the feeling of isolation from other children is very great, then it is better for the child to be part of the group, because it helps him to adapt. It is recommended that parents talk about these topics, as well as the topic of pocket money and Internet use at school, at parent-teacher conferences. It is proper to make common decisions so that the children do not suffer and feel they belong to the class", the psychologist also stated.
Association "Parents" also distributes a handbook in schools, dedicated to the 1st grade, which every parent can get from their child's class teacher.